a phone conversation:
" Maybe you should take time for yourself. Maybe you should get some therapy.....You are..you have..she has?" Therapists cannot fix people. A therapist cannot 'heal' a problem, they can only give direction, guidance, medications..in other words, a therapist can steer a conversation thus that a person has some self-realization, however, it is beyond the power of a therapist to 'fix' a problem. The therapist can expose a problem that exists and offer tools for remediation or for coping, for 'getting over it', however, they cannot heal, not really.
In the movie "Girl Interrupted" there is a very telling scene where Winona Ryder's character Susannah is talking with the Psychiatrist (Dr. Wick played by Vanessa Redgrave) who is explaining to her the power that she herself holds over her diagnostic outcome.."Ambivalence..the word suggests that you are torn between two opposing courses of action.
Susannah: Will I stay or will I go
Psych: Am I sane or am I crazy?
S: Those aren't courses of action.
P: They can be dear, for some.
S: Well then, its the wrong word.
P: No, I think it's perfect...(quotical interlude)...It's a very big question you're faced with Susannah, the choice of your life. How much will you indulge in your flaws, what are your flaws, are they flaws? If you embrace them will you commit yourself to hospital for life? Big questions, big decisions. Not suprising you profess carelessness about them."
"Those aren't courses of action."..."They can be dear, for some"....
What will be the caller's course of action? Will he continue to indulge in his flaws?
Will he continue in the circular pattern of thinking (of behaviors) he is in?
And myself? How was I, indeed, how am I so different from him?
Hm? (there are days...yes, there are days)
It is just before five a.m. and there is a very long day ahead which will reach into the next day. The cat curls up in bed with me and the dogs are quiet in their pen while outside the world is crystalline and so very cold....
"Choose life then, that you and your descendants may live, by loving the Lord, your God, heeding his voice and holding fast to him." Deuteronomy 30: 19-20